Unlocking Autism's Voice- Laura Hirsch

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Close your eyes and imagine.

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What if the things in life that cause us the greatest pain, the things that bring us grief, are challenges, challenges designed to help us grow to ultimately become what we were always meant to be. We feel like we've been buried. But what if, like a seed. We've been planted, and having been planted, we grow to become a mighty tree. Now open your eyes. Open your eyes to this way of viewing life. Come with me as we explore your true, infinite, eternal nature. This is grief to growth, and I am your host. Brian Smith, Hey there. Welcome to grief, to growth, where we explore the challenges of life, understand our purpose and connect with the deeper aspects of our existence.

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Whether you're tuning in for the first time or you've been with us for a while, I'm glad you're here. I'm your host, Brian Smith, and today we're joined by Laura Hirsch. Laura is an inspiring author and advocate whose work challenges the mainstream understanding of autism and communication. Her journey is deeply personal. Her son, Trevor, was diagnosed with regressive autism at the age of three, and for many years he was a non speaker. However, the story took an unexpected turn when Trevor discovered spelling to communicate, which is a revolutionary method that allowed him to express his thoughts through spelling. This breakthrough led to their co authored book more than meets the eye, where Trevor shares with his journey about autism, but also his experiences as a musician, a horse whisperer and even a medium. So we're going to explore how this mother son duo is giving a voice to the voiceless and actually changing misconceptions around non verbal individuals. We'll also talk about Laura's earlier works, including a book called The Other Side of autism and also widow too soon, talking more about Laura's deeply moving journey through life and now her writing is empowering families, especially people with autism or families people with autism, to look at it through a new lens, to look at grief through a new lens. And Laura's dedication to health, freedom, activist, activism and holistic approach to caregiving for individuals with autism make her really an inspiring guest. So make sure you stay into the end and learn how we can understand more about autism, mediumship and all those things, and then join us at the community grief for growth.com/community. After slash community to continue the conversation after and with that, I want to welcome Laura to the show.

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Thank you, Brian, what a wonderful introduction.

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Thanks for having me on. Yeah,

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I'm really excited to have you here. We started talking before we started recording, and I wanted to get some of that down, because you've really had a fascinating life and and your experience with Trevor. So start wherever you'd like it, then tell us about your your journey.

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Sure, there's a lot to cover, yeah. So I'll start more at the beginning. You know, this podcast is about grief, and I lost my first husband. We were together for eight years in a car accident when I was 27 years old, which led me down the path to wanting to know more about mediumship after death and near death experiences. And I became a believer. I was raised Catholic in the Midwest. I didn't believe any of that stuff growing up, but once you lose somebody that's your best friend and soul mate, you change your perspective, and it just draws you to things you never would have explored before. So I start, I had a couple readings with some mediums after he passed, and going into it being a complete skeptic, and it really changed my life. And I've been going to see mediums for, initially, grief therapy for the last 25 years or so. And then when my son was diagnosed with autism, I they kept bringing up stuff about him and about how to help him, how to, you know, change his diet, Do this, do that. And so that led to my so I wrote a book called widow too soon that you mentioned, which was about my the transformation and everything that happened with the grief process, including mediumship. Because I think that's very healing for people to to connect and have that spiritual connection and know that they're always around, and they're always helping us and taking care of us still from where they're at. And then I ended up going to see a medium and spirit artist couple, Michael and Marty Perry, after that book came out, and they did the most amazing reading. And she draws people in spirit too.

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So she's a medium. She sees them and draws them, and she's drawn Both my grandfathers at different points, and we decided to do a book together about autism. It's like 27 chapters.

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It's not just dead people that I know. A lot of famous people also came through and gave us information, which is a little different because it's harder to validate something that. You didn't experience. So they would give names and dates and places and things that I had to look up to validate that it was them and super fascinating and very helpful, like confirmed what happened to my son and a lot of these kids and how to help them.

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So then my son, he's now 26 Trevor, and in 2021 I started taking him to piano lessons and singing lessons. And a friend of mine did it, and she thought my son's we consider him a non speaker, but singing is a different part of the brain. So he's able to sing full songs and learn how to play his favorite song, Puff the Magic Dragon and sing it all by himself. It took, you know, less than a year, but he was able to do it, and he even sang in recitals in front of 100 people. I have it on my website, Laura hirsch.com the actual I have a lot of videos of him doing a lot of things, spelling and doing all these things. But that was the first miraculous thing that happened then when we started doing spelling to communicate, which is, I'll show you what a letter board looks like. I have one here. This is the laminated board, so it's basically a through z and some symbols, and then on the back it has the numbers. We started doing it on Zoom three years ago with a practitioner down in Southern California, and you read lessons to the person, and they do such a great job because they presume competence in non speakers. They don't talk down to them like they're a two year old. They know how intelligent they are, and they give them a tool to basically get what's in their mind into their mouth, because that's truly what their disability is, apraxia. It's the inability to get what's in their brain into their mouth. It's a small motor movement deficit. So with spelling to communicate, it's taking speech into large motor movement, using your hand to point to the letters. And that's why it's so successful.

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It seems silly and like super easy, but it's genius, and it was started by Elizabeth bossler, and she has a healing center. She was a speech and language pathologist in Virginia. And I saw I read a book called underestimated, with JB Handley and his son, Jamie, who are just like Jamie's just like Trevor, a non speaker. And he learned how to do spelling to communicate. And I said, if he can do this, and if Trevor can learn how to play the piano and sing, I know he can do this too.

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So we started right away. I had to get you know order the letter boards, and I became his. They call it a CRP communication regulation partner. We did it over zoom. And then once he became an open speller, which means I can just ask him anything, and he can answer.

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That's when the floodgates opened with the stuff about mediumship and horse whispers, because he would just talk tell me things. And so what happened was, with the horse whisperer, that's what he's on the cover of the book on his horse blackjack.

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He started riding horses a few years ago, and we would, he would tell me afterward what he experienced, and he would always tell me that what his horse said to him telepathically. And I thought it was really cool, and then I knew it was really real when he he told me that blackjack was sad because Buck died, and Buck was another horse. No one told Trevor that buck died, and then another horse passed away, named Sully.

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And he said black jack is grieving because Sully died.

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Turns out he did. No one told him again. And then another. The third thing that really shocked me was that he spelled today we talked about the fact that Nikki's pregnant with triplets, who's the lady that was the director at the time, and she told us she was gonna have to step down because she was having triplets. I mean, how random, like, you can't make that up. So he now rides another horse named dude. He talks to dude also, and they have these beautiful conversations. And there's about, I think 20, there's 20 some episodes in the book of their what he's told me that he spelled. Then we started, we I always do alternative healing with him, and I'm a healer myself. And we started going to these centers, healing centers.

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One's called the EE system, or the energy enhancement system, and it's basically scalar technology, and you just lay there and get a healing, basically, whatever you need.

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And then the other one's called the tachyon chamber, and it's basically a chair that you lay in, and it's got like a pyramid and sacred geometry above you.

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And again, you just get into this really deep meditative state. And it's so they're both really awesome healing modalities. So then I would ask Trevor afterward, what did you experience? And he started telling me that he saw his angels. And he started telling me the names of people that have passed away, that I know, like my dad, his other grandpa, my brother and Darren, who's my first husband that passed who he never met, three years prior to Trevor being born. And so. Every time he would tell me what they would say, and it was just very heartwarming. He was just giving us messages from them. And again, he's a non speaker, and he's spelling This to me letter by letter. And just wow, blown away. So I then, when we were doing spelling to communicate, I said, Trevor, tell me an altruistic thing you would like to do in your life. And he spelled, I would like to write a book with you about my life to inspire others. And it was his idea to write the book. And I said, Well, what would you want the book to be called? And he spelled the name of the book more than meets the eye. That's a great title. So that's kind of the progression of the books.

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And he spelled to me before that he knew I wrote books and that I would tell his story. Wow,

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I gotta tell you, that was, first of all, I got goosebumps. But I had never heard autism described in that way before, that it's a motor skill issue, because I think it's been, I know it's been a big mystery to us, like, you know, what's going on with them and and there's been research for years that shown the people that have autism are artistic.

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I'm not sure what the terminology is, if you have it or are, but we've known that they're they're intelligent. We know that there's something going on. And I guess, you know, I did this first time, I realized it's just a matter of making that connection between the brain and the mouth, and that's why they're able, or he's able to spell, but not able to speak. That's something that was, I didn't know that. It's wild,

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yeah, and that's, excuse me, that's the premise of s 2c that's spelling to communicate as to see that it's they've been misunderstood and underestimated most of their life, and most of the kids like Trevor, you know, if you would look at them and they're doing their little stimming and vocal vocalizations, you wouldn't think that they're highly intelligent. But every single speller that I know is highly intelligent and can communicate through the letter boards. And there's actually a movie called spellers, and it's on YouTube for free, and it showcases eight spellers like Trevor, and they're they're similar paths, and it tells all about spelling to communicate. So I would highly recommend anybody interested in in spelling to communicate, to watch that documentary. It's based on the book, underestimated, and JB are actually in it. And Elizabeth Bossert, I mean, it's, it's what inspired me, the book, and then when the movie came out, oh man, I cried the whole time. Yeah, but it's changing people's lives. And it's just so many people are getting into it now and giving their their loved ones, their voice back that they never had, and a lot of them are kids in their 20s, never had access to communication before.

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Yeah, looked at in a completely different light than who they really are. Yeah,

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I absolutely 100% so I'm glad that we're getting that message out. It's really interesting because you're the third person I've talked to just in the last few months who has a non verbal one, one woman had is her son, but another one was she's a teacher, and she was teaching this kid named Asher.

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Her name is Jess Curzon, so I don't know if you've heard of her or not, but she's she's British, and this kid came to her when he was, like, six years old, and he started communicating with her telepathically. And they've, he's in his, I think, 30s now, or like 20s, and they still have a relationship, but he's, he did learn a little bit of speech, but then he stopped speaking to her. He only, he only communicates with the telepathically now. So I think it's really interesting that there seems to be a connection between not being able to speak and developing that other way of communicating. Yeah,

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I actually do know who she is. I follow the tell.

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It's a podcast called The telepathy tapes, and she was on the teacher's edition of that show. Okay, the guests on the show for her second season, and Trevor actually spelled for her.

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Kai Dickens is the lady who does the telepathy tapes, and she asked spellers to help and answer certain questions they're all going to answer. And I don't have them in front of me. But one of the things that Trevor spelled it was, what do you want people to know about who you are? And he spelled, I am an intelligent man with remarkable spiritual gifts, yeah, and you know what he wants for himself and for society and the education system and so, yeah, I do am familiar with her. But if, if you're interested in telepathy, they had a really great scientific episode on recently, and it talked all about the history of the science of testing telepathy with people and animals. Really incredible Joe.

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So when did you first realize that he was able to communicate with you telepathically?

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Actually, the telepathy piece just came out recently that. Um, he it's his gifts were more in alignment with talking to his horse, and then with people later passed.

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And recently, since I started watching the telepathy tapes, I started testing him. I would think of a number in my head and say it like three times, and then hand him the board, and he would get it 100% every time.

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Then I started doing it with single words, then longer words and long then sentences. So I've only tried it like five times, to be honest with him, but just yesterday, he spelled 2 million was the number I thought of. And then I said, You ride dude on Thursday, and he spelled, you ride dude on Thursday, like it's getting longer and longer, and all I do is say it in my head.

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So that's been a newer revelation, that he's able to do that, and it's pretty cool.

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Yeah, yeah.

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So has he? Have you talked to are you? Have you communicate with him about, like, like, Soul planning, or anything like that, or, you know, maybe why that he's having this experience.

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He did bring up something once, it actually had to do with Darren. So Darren came through to him, and I said, How long has Darren been one of your angels? And he spelled since before I was born? And said, oh, so did you have a past life together? And he said, we've had many past lives together. And he's, I said, anything else? And he said he's been my number one protector.

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And I mean, that just opens up a whole other can of worms, so to speak, of what, how we choose the our life and who we choose to be in it, right? So I said, Did you know that you were going to have a pretty tough life, and you needed a lot of help from the other side? And he said, Yes, yeah, plan this together, that they this was going to be their relationship in this lifetime for him, yeah? I mean, I think he, he's so proud of the fact that he wrote a book with me, and he wants others to do the same and follow in his footsteps and like see that anything's possible, and he wants to help other people like him so and that's why I'm here, and just sharing his message to get other spellers time

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Yeah, so I How does that make you you kind of said it, but I just want to explain a little bit more how that makes you feel. To know that your your husband who passed and you said, widowed, too young. I mean, that's 27 is that's really hard.

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But to know that that kind of set this whole thing in motion, and that now he's an angel for Trevor, yeah, and

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a lot of people are his angels. And actually, this is another really interesting story I didn't tell you. My sister passed away during the writing of the book, and she lived in Chicago, so she got really sick, and just had to be put in a medically induced coma, and never came out of it.

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And she used to teach Trevor ABA therapy. She came, came to Nevada, and lived with us for two years, and got trained to do what's called Applied Behavioral Analysis, and what was one of Trevor's tutors. So they were pretty close, you know, they had a close relationship, and she always loved him, and was, you know, just adored him. And so after she passed, my mom, I got her to go, get to Chicago to say goodbye, and I had to take care of Trevor, so I didn't get to go. But when the day we came home, well, she we came home, and then the day that she passed was like, Thanksgiving, like, right around Thanksgiving, and all of a sudden we had all these Robins show up in our backyard.

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We never, hardly ever get Robins. And I was just like, looking outside, and there's a bunch of them in the tree, a bunch of them in the bird bath, a bunch of them in the bird feeders. And we commented on it, and I asked Trevor, after she passed, I said, So Auntie Kim is now with the angels. Can you talk to her? And he said, Yes.

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And I said, what does she have to say? And she says, like, I'm doing I'm fine. I'm doing okay.

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And I sent the Robins to mom, wow. Like, how awesome is that?

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Like we're seeing the robins and Trevor, a non speaker spells that my sister sent the Robins.

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Yeah, mom, who lives with me, and how comforting. Yeah,

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yeah, that, that's the thing it does. I mean, the world seems sometimes like it's just out of order, and it's and it's crazy, and things happen, and we think this, this can't be right. But, you know, seeing the the connections, you know, and and seeing the pattern, and seeing where, what this leading to it just, it gives me a lot of comfort. Hopefully people enlisting is going to give them same amount of comfort. Because I'm just like, I'm blown away by it.

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Yeah, it's and, I mean. There's a lot of different phenomenon that happened around when people pass, like we had the I think it was right around the day she passed. Also, I have this in our loft. We have this LED led book. It's a TV stand, and it has LED lights on it, and they kept going on by themselves. And what the heck.

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Who keeps turning these lights on, and then the TV went on by itself a few times, and I just kind of knew it was her, you know, messing with me. And then I was telling you yesterday, I went and had a reading with the medium at a psychic fair here in Reno, and I had one with this person before. And so my dad brought through my sister, and she admitted that she was messing with the lights in the house. Wow. So just another huge validation that, okay, that's her. And then she brought through my brother who passed, my brother in law who passed, came through. So it was just, it's, to me, it's very comforting. It's very natural to be able to still connect with them when they're no longer here. And I mean, I have story after story after story I could tell you, but yeah,

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well, you know, it's interesting because we use that, you know, no longer here, and they're no longer here with us physically, but they're clearly still here, you know, still very much present, still active, involved in our lives and and how long has It been since your husband passed?

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It was in 1995

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Yeah, so, you know, it's, it's funny, because we, you know, we tend to think like, well, they're going to move along, you know, they're going to lose interest. You know, sometimes people think that. And I was just listening to something the other day about, I was stuff about the afterlife, but they were saying, after so many years, you know, they're not, they're not as close with us, or something like that. And for me, it's been nine and a half years since my daughter passed, but I'm like, I still feel like she's as present now as she was, you know, the day that she transitioned. And I'm sure it's the same case with you, when they still have a purpose to be here. Yep.

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And it's another interesting thing happened. It's not in the book, because it happened after the book. So Darren, his and his best friend's name was Darren also, and his wife's name was Karen.

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So Darren and Karen, I have not talked to them, really, hardly, much at all since he passed, for the first few years, but then I moved and we kind of lost touch.

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Well, their son is a firefighter here in in southern Lake Tahoe for coming out to visit him. And we got together, we went to lunch, and Trevor was at home just getting upset about something, and my mom was here with them. Later, it turns out that Darren was giving him messages for Darren and Karen, and it was just so cool. And I shared it with them, and they thought it was amazing that like they knew he knew they were here. And he's like, I'm so glad you and Laura are connecting, and you guys should move here.

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And they were considering moving here, moving somewhere else, but this was one of the places that they were considering moving.

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Wow. And he's like, I'm sorry if I spooked you, Trevor, I just really wanted to get a message to my friends. Wow, wow.

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Yeah, still still involved, and still still caring about what's going on. Now, I know Trevor was diagnosed with regressive autism, and for those of us who don't know, what does regressive autism mean,

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I'm just going to be blunt vaccine injured. Okay, at one year old, he had 60 words. He did everything ahead of all of his milestones, ahead of schedule. And then after his one year shots of the MMR and chicken pox, on the same day, he stopped talking. He stopped using a fork. I mean, how do you lose motor skills? His first birthday, he was eating his you know, I have videos of his birthday. Had a fork using it, second birthday, using his hand, and it was just we didn't know what happened. We didn't know for a long time. And once I figured it out, I changed everything about his diet, I cleaned up everything i i went totally holistic, and we did all kinds of therapies and treatments and hyperbaric oxygen therapy. Homeopathy helped him tremendously. But the one thing that he never got back was language. And he had some words.

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He had some language. He, you know, did applied behavioral analysis for a year, for his entire life, where you sit one on one and work with somebody.

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So he was taught the same thing over and over and over and over.

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And here's this super intelligent human being that's like just going along with the program, because no one knew how smart he is. Wow. And if you read the book like the the lessons that we did are age appropriate. They're probably more college age, like words that most people probably can't spell. He just knows how to spell. I don't know how he knows how to spell. I don't know. The craziest part, too, is once you get into prior knowledge questions. So it starts out in spelling to communicate with just spelling words that were in the lesson, and then, like you read a paragraph. And then you ask them questions, some that are known, some that are prior knowledge. First, it's just spelling words, but then words step that's in the lesson. Then when you get to prior knowledge, it's something that's related to the lesson, but wasn't talked about, and it's just things in life that you would know being a human being, like name, another great lake, name, another mountain range, who is a member of The Beatles, and just stuff like that. And that's where you know that this is legitimate.

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Because, no, it wasn't in the lesson. He just knew this. And then they start asking open questions, which are his thoughts? Okay? And then creative writing, which is longer, you know, thoughts like, tell me your opinion on this.

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Yeah. And you know now that he's open for a little while, we didn't even, we didn't even do lessons because he said, I already know how to spell, Mom, I don't need to, but it was less things that he wasn't interested in. So then there's a really great practitioner, actually, her son, Aiden, is in the spellers movie. Her name's April, and she writes lessons about music and dance, and he's really interested in that because he's a musician. So he started doing spelling again with me to all these music lessons, and he just, he comes upstairs in his room like that, because he wants to do it again.

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Yeah. So it's like, at first, once they get there, you know, then you can kind of pick and choose, or they can even pick and choose what they want to learn about. Wow,

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yeah, it's, you know, this is again, crazy. I just interviewed someone. It's not even out yet. It was like two weeks ago, and her son was was vaccine injured, and I think he was around the age of one, and so he never learned to write or to walk and and couldn't speak. So, yeah, that's just coincidence, Synchronicity or whatever. But I just, I just interviewed her, and it'll be out. It'll be out soon. Oh, wow, I'll have to listen to that. So what is, what is Trevor's life like on a day to day basis? Now,

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I like to say he's living his best life. Now he's not in school anymore, so he can kind of do what he wants. And he always tells me the things that he wants to do. So he sleeps in late, and we go get lunch or whatever. We sometimes just go visit the horses. He usually rides once a week. He likes to just go see them, and he can talk to them telepathically, just even when he's not riding them. And I say, so what the horses say today? And you know, he's always telling me what they what they say, and he's just standing there near them. It's very, very cool. But, um, you know, we go on trips. We go up to Lake Tahoe. He loves Lake Tahoe. He likes to swim, um, just doing things that he likes to do and enjoy. And then we usually come home and do spelling to communicate or play the piano and sing, because we have a piano here at the house.

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And usually once a week we'll sing. He usually sings Puff the Magic Dragon twice. And then he and I sing like three or four songs of his choosing together that are recorded in the piano on a stick. So his teacher had a piano called the Clavinova, and so do we? So you can take a stick and record it on one end and then put it on in the piano on the other end, yeah, the voice and the music. So then we can just hit the button and sing with her. It's really cool.

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Yeah, yeah. So he's just, you know, living his best life and trying to inspire others. Yeah,

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did he ever have you discussed with him? I You were talking about the lessons before, and I can only imagine how frustrating that must be for somebody who's intelligent but not verbal. And did he ever say like, you know, did he talk about being frustrated in the past? Or I

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asked him, What was life like for you before and after spelling to communicate smell before spelling, I was so frustrated afterward, I am finally free.

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Yeah, yeah. So this understanding of autism as a as a motor issue as opposed to cognitive issue is that, is that understood by medicine now, or is that something still not generally accepted?

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It's starting to get out there. For instance, Trevor's functional neurologist, Dr Randall gates, he's been seeing Trevor since he was 15, mostly because of seizures. He started having seizures when he was 15, and he helped us tremendously with that. And I ended up actually working for him as an assistant for three years, and he has seen Trevor's whole journey through being a non speaker to now spelling on a letter board. We took him in for a visit, and Trevor said he wanted to bring that letter board to spell something to Dr gates, and he spelled to him, thank you for believing in me. I love you. And Dr gates started crying. He's just this big, like six, five, like athletic kind of guy, and he just was in tears.

00:29:53.019 --> 00:29:55.660
And so he actually ended up doing the forward to our book.

00:29:56.500 --> 00:30:00.900
He's seen just how different.

00:29:56.500 --> 00:30:12.599
And he says. I always knew that Trevor had some special gifts, and I just it's so great to see them now, and he's changed his complete attitude on non speakers. And like everybody is, once you see it, you can't not see it.

00:30:13.019 --> 00:30:26.660
Yeah, so, so Trevor spells with you, with with the board, and it's, it's not electronic or anything. Is anybody working on a way to make that easier so he could communicate with others? Yeah,

00:30:26.660 --> 00:30:54.339
so some spellers are using keyboards now so they can type what they're spelling or whatever, and then hit play and it's it says what they spelled. Okay, so that's not everybody wants to do that. I've asked Trevor before if he wanted to learn how to type, and he knows how to type, but it's actually more motor planning. So just there's 26 choices on the letter board, and there's like, over 100 on a keyboard right?

00:30:54.640 --> 00:30:58.960
Have the feedback from the keys.

00:30:54.640 --> 00:31:27.559
So that's so it's like a seesaw, like if the cognitive, the cognitive is higher when the motor is lower. And so when there's more motor choices, then there's the cognitive has to work a little harder. So he did try a handheld keyboard for a while, and he he said he just prefers the letter board. And I so 26 letters is equals infinite possibilities. Is a saying to see never like do advance from that because they choose not to.

00:31:24.500 --> 00:32:05.640
There is, however, some new technology that's coming out where it's you can do it. You know, I forget what it's called, but it's on the I ask website, which is i dash, asc.org, that's the spelling to communicate website, and they have all the science on there, where they use a headset, where you can use your eyes to point to the letters instead of a hand, right? So there's a lot of new technology coming out also that's going to help our spellers communicate, so that you could even bring it to a doctor's office and have them, because I just bring the letter board, and he's just spells to me, right? But to get other people to be able to spell with them, yeah, I was

00:32:05.640 --> 00:32:11.519
curious about that, because I know people that are paraplegics can use their eyes.

00:32:07.680 --> 00:32:44.920
And I have a friend that she had ALS, and she would, you know, she wrote a book, and it was, it was funny, kind of funny, because when people are asking, or she was asking for advice for the titles, and she was going to say, I I wrote this with my effing eyes. You should read it with yours, because she got to the point where she could only use her eyes to communicate. But that technology allowed her to write a book, and it's fantastic book, but hopefully we can free people up with whatever works for them. If the spelling board works for Trevor, then you know that's what that's appropriate, but it's really great to see people breaking free.

00:32:45.160 --> 00:33:49.599
Yeah, his brother actually showed interest. Damon, he's three years younger, of wanting to spell with him too, so I'm going to teach him how to do it. So it's not just me that can spell with him, so we'll see where that goes. I have to do some training with him first, but like, since he's open already, it's not like, new people starting together. Like, when I started with Trevor, it was a lot of teaching me how to, you know, hold the board, and what to do and what to say flip and when you actually, when you first start, there's a set of three boards that you use, and you're there's only eight choices on each board, so you're through three boards trying to, like, it's a lot of work. Trevor got through the three boards in about a month. So then we are on a 26 board, which has, it's a little different. It's a stencil. This is called a laminate board. The one I showed you the stencil is it's got the A through Z with you can poke through the letter. So they usually use a pencil or their finger and poke through the letter at first, until they get more fluent. And then you jump up to the the laminate board.

00:33:46.240 --> 00:33:52.180
Some people stay on the stencil board too. So it's all individualized, yeah,

00:33:52.240 --> 00:33:58.900
yeah, but it sounds like it's still a process of learning, that it's a skill that that has to be learned, right?

00:33:59.079 --> 00:34:04.319
So it's, it's like learning anything like how to ride a bike, how to drive a car.

00:34:01.140 --> 00:34:09.900
It's creating and myelinating new pathways, new neuronal pathways in the brain. And once they're there, they're permanent, you know, yeah,

00:34:11.940 --> 00:34:29.360
permanent. And we talked about earlier, we kind of touched on it that Trevor's able to sing, because that's a different it's a different thing. And I know, again, a little bit related to what I what I know about, I know, like a lot of times, people who stutter might have tremendous studs, but they can actually sing and not stutter at all,

00:34:29.840 --> 00:34:39.860
correct? Yeah. So Dr Gates said that exact same thing you talked about Mel Tillis, who had a stutter, but he was a beautiful Yeah. Yeah.

00:34:36.380 --> 00:34:43.780
It's just a different part of the brain singing than speaking.

00:34:39.860 --> 00:35:16.559
Mm, hmm. So that's how he was able to access that, you know, singing, because that part of the brain wasn't damaged, I guess. So he even sings like he is, not monotone, like his, his speaking voice. He can, you know, go up and down the scale and sings on. Key, and, you know, plays the piano, that's motor movement too. So yeah, it was remarkable. His whole the last five years of his life have been just a whirlwind of just showing us who he is and who he's always been, right,

00:35:16.619 --> 00:35:35.780
exactly who he's always been. So what advice would you have for parents of non verbal children? Because, again, it seems like the understanding that you have is not commonly known or widely held. So for anybody that's listening, or anybody that knows someone that has a non verbal child, what would you want to say to them?

00:35:37.039 --> 00:36:09.119
I would very, really encourage them to watch the spellers movie. First of all, it's very informative. It says a lot more about the process. And you can see it, you know, on the movie, and it's eight different kids doing it, super inspiring. There's a few websites. There's actually there. It's kind of branched off now from just the I ask spelling to communicate. There's now a spellers movement. There's a speller Center in San Diego, and there's one in Tampa, and they used to do the ladies that run.

00:36:05.820 --> 00:37:17.340
It used to do spelling to communicate, but now they've incorporated other motor treatments, like ocular motor like working with developmental optometry, and motor movement like exercise. So it's not just the spelling. So there's ways that you can work with your child yourself, like we did on Zoom. I did it all myself, but people can take their child to a place and have a practitioner work with them, or if there's a practitioner in your area. So there's lists on both of the websites. So it's i dash, www, dot i dash, asc.org, that's the spelling to communicate original Center in Virginia, and then the speller. It's just spellers.com, and that will also list spelling to communicate practitioners in every state. Yeah, you can start a lot younger than my son started. I mean, this wasn't available when Trevor was younger, and he he's even spelled. I really hope they get spelling to communicate in schools. Yeah, that's another place that needs practitioners.

00:37:13.440 --> 00:37:34.699
Is in the school district. But that movie is phenomenal. Those two websites you can go to to learn more. My website, www, dot Laura Hirsch, author.com, I have a lot of resources on my website. I have videos where you can see Trevor and I spelling.

00:37:31.519 --> 00:38:11.519
Even the video of him spelling to Dr gates is on there. His videos of him playing the piano and singing he did a Christmas pageant type thing where he and I sang together, and he has a Santa hat on and a Grinch t shirt, and he sang an entire the rainbow connection into the microphone looked like a little star like you would never know that he's a non speaker, and he was actually featured on, they Call it the neuro lyrical Cafe, and it's it features people that are non speakers, that write songs and sing and do artistic things like that, write poetry.

00:38:07.860 --> 00:38:21.380
And it just features a lot of kids like Trevor, and they have it once a month with I ask, and they really support the community and presume competence in our kids,

00:38:21.980 --> 00:39:33.079
yeah, yeah. Well, I think that's really important, is presuming competence, to not think that because someone is not able to speak, that doesn't mean that they don't understand, that they don't know what's going on around them, which I think is a mistake that a lot of us still make. And so it's great that, you know, we're getting that message out there. I remember hearing, this was a few years ago. I don't remember the details, but it was a, it was a girl, I think she's about 14, and she was autistic, and it might have been speaking or spelling to communicate, but she had gotten some sort of way of getting her voice out. And everybody was amazed at all this, you know, the world that was going on inside, and how how intelligent she was, and how, I know, are imaginative, and everything like, you know, like, like other people are, but just not, not verbal. So I think this is really great that you've discovered this and are sharing with other people. And I would imagine that if they people did start working with the earlier might be a little bit easier, because, you know, as we get older, it's, I know it's hard to learn a second language, for example, so it might be better if people could get to it earlier. Yeah,

00:39:33.619 --> 00:39:47.260
I don't know if you're familiar with the Dell big tree, but it's a show called the high wire, and they had the spelling panel on there, when the book first came out, I think when the movie first came out.

00:39:43.300 --> 00:40:02.340
Yeah, it was the movie. And they had the spellers that were in the movie on the panel on his show, and he asked each of them, When could you have started to do spelling to communicate, or how old were you when you learned to read? And then how old would could you have started to do this? And they all said.

00:39:58.300 --> 00:40:37.039
Like, two or three or four years old when I started school, and then I had Trevor answer all the questions that he presented to the panel. And he said he could read at two years old. He learned it from books, because I read to him all the time. And he said that he could have started this when he was in, like, I think he said eight, like, it's second grade, yeah. So it this is available now, when it wasn't. I mean, this has only been available for five years, eight years, not long, yeah, but we kind of got in on it early, like, compared to most people still don't even know about it.

00:40:38.300 --> 00:40:57.039
Yeah. You know, as I'm sitting here, I'm just, it's so it's hard to believe that, as much as we think we know, with the medicine and stuff, that something that you know explains to me, and I'm like, oh, yeah, that makes perfect sense. And it's still not, still not common knowledge. And it's, it's really important, you know, it's really important that people understand

00:40:57.460 --> 00:41:55.360
this, yeah, cuz see it with my own eyes. I mean, we work together every day for a while. Well, when I was working for Dr gates, I couldn't work with him every day, but once, I had to become his host, what they call a host home provider in Nevada, because my mom was watching him, but she had started to lose her eyesight, so she couldn't drive him anywhere anymore to become the host home provider, because I couldn't be the guardian and the host home provider. So his dad's now that was the guardian. Now I am again, because they switched the laws here anyway. That's a different story. But once I started working with them every day, and that's like an hour a day, you're not sitting there doing it all day long, you just blossomed and took off. And I would call my friend Mary, the one who helped us get into piano, and I'd have Trevor stories every day for her. I'm like, Oh my God, you're not going to believe what. Believe what Trevor just spelled. She's like, Oh my God. And she's like, you just you have to stop being surprised. And I'm like, I'll never stop being surprised, because I'm a new person. Like, didn't even know who my son was his whole life until now.

00:41:55.840 --> 00:42:06.360
Yeah, let's talk about that a little bit, because I think resources are really important. If you don't mind, you mentioned host home provider. You mentioned guardian. What is what is that?

00:42:03.420 --> 00:42:06.360
What does that involve?

00:42:06.840 --> 00:42:17.880
Oh, so that's just once when someone needs a legal guardian. Every state's different, someone has to be appointed as the legal guardian.

00:42:13.139 --> 00:43:06.840
And in Nevada, I was his legal guardian since he was 18. Then they had this new program that came out called a host home provider, where the state basically pays, and it's not in every state, it's certain states pay somebody to take care of the person, right? That was my mom for three years, because at the time, they didn't allow one person to be both Right, right, and they once she couldn't drive. I had his dad, Trevor's dad, become the guardian for one year, and then I was the host home provider. Then they allowed both, so we both are now his guardian. Yeah, it was host home provider, but it's been the best thing ever for him and for me, because I've been able to work with him every day. I've been able in places and and be with him, and it's been just amazing to see his progress and just who he is. Yeah.

00:43:06.840 --> 00:43:35.059
Well, I wanted to bring that up because sometimes there are resources available to us that we're not aware of, and I've heard a little bit about and again, unfortunately, it's state by state a lot of times, but sometimes, if you have someone with a severe disability, they will allow you to to they will provide for you to stay with them. And I think that's that's so needed, it's so important. So I want to let you know, people know, check out, see if that's available to

00:43:35.059 --> 00:44:07.019
you. Yeah, if they have a regional center, a lot of states have, like, a regional center, and they have a person that is assigned to them. They can ask them, because a lot of times they don't tell parents that it's available. I didn't find out. I found out from another parent, and I told some of my friends they didn't know about it. So there are sometimes resources available, I think, Well, dungarvin is who we go through. If you just look up dungarvin, that it shows the states that the programs are available in Okay, most home provider benefits, and it's usually done with through their Medicaid.

00:44:07.380 --> 00:44:19.139
Yeah, and we talked about your your husband, Darren, and Trevor, having this this arrangement. How do you feel that you and Trevor? What was your arrangement like in terms of this life?

00:44:20.039 --> 00:45:06.119
That's a good question. I've never asked him that. I mean, I would assume that we're we had past lives together, for me to choose to come in as his mother in this lifetime and have this be such a challenge for both of us. But now it's just, it's come full circle, and all the struggles we had gone through over the years just not that they go away, but it makes everything worth it to just see him come into his his true essence as a human and what he came here to do. And I feel blessed that I was able to be that support person for him. And you know, we'll see where it goes. But, yeah, I. I never thought this would ever happen in a million years, that this would be a way I would be able to communicate with my

00:45:07.139 --> 00:45:40.960
son. Yeah, well, I'm really glad that you found it. I just I find it's really interesting. I've had experience with people that have had children that required their care, you know, for for the rest of their lives, or whatever. And sometimes people look on the outside will think, Oh, that's a terrible burden to have, and, you know, they'll feel sorry for the people. But, and I don't want to speak for you, but I can say almost everybody, everybody else I've talked to you, and I want you speak for yourself, it's been like, No, this is a great blessing. This is, this is really and I've seen how it's changed people's lives in a positive way. Yeah,

00:45:41.199 --> 00:46:30.500
definitely. I mean, he is just the most angelic human, just kind, I can't even tell you, like his essence is just so pure and so innocent, and it just, but he's so he calls himself a light worker. Oh, does he? Yeah, he's said it a few times, and I can see that. And he's got a lot of spiritual gifts that I didn't know about, and I wouldn't have known until he started spelling every time we go to, like we just went down to the EE system, it's in Gardnerville a couple days ago. And I said, you know, what did you experience in there today? And he spelled, you know, I saw green and purple tints, and I left my body, I went out of my body. And I said, Where did you go? And he said, Heaven.

00:46:27.139 --> 00:47:17.820
And I said, Well, what's that like? And he spelled, spelled miraculous. Wow. So he's, he's spelled about heaven before, like that. And that's the he's said that he's gone out of his body before, and so he's not just telepathically talking, I think physically, it's like a dream state, like, you go there, you see around, you know, and he is, he's spelled once, you know, there are colors here that we don't have on earth. So it's just so interesting to just pick his brain and ask him all these questions. Like, I don't think another normal spelling partner would think to ask somebody these questions. But because of my background with mediumship, with, you know, grief, and knowing that he's tapped into that world, I'm so fascinated. I just like, can't wait to ask him more things. Yeah,

00:47:18.000 --> 00:47:20.300
yeah, absolutely.

00:47:18.000 --> 00:47:42.400
And, you know, and I again, I think, you know, by not being or being verbal sometimes gets in the way right? So we're always trying to become more mindful and to quiet our minds and to, you know, to meditate and all that stuff. But when you're not able to speak, I would imagine that you're able to probably turn inward a lot easier and slow your thoughts down and reach that level that most of us struggle to reach.

00:47:42.820 --> 00:47:56.079
Yeah, I think he and a lot of other kids just like him, have been doing this their whole life. Had to learn that skill, like they weren't connecting with people here. So they had connect somewhere else.

00:47:52.840 --> 00:47:56.079
And he has spelled that to me.

00:47:56.079 --> 00:48:12.840
He said that he's been and a couple other spellers like on the telepathy tapes have said that they go to this place in a different state of consciousness that they call the hill, and where they all get together and talk telepathically to one another and share things like, teach each other things, right?

00:48:13.139 --> 00:48:53.440
Trevor said, I've been doing this most of my life, and they're like, I think he spelled 500,000 people that go to the hill and he does it when he's sleeping. Oh, wow. So I mean, there's different levels of consciousness that I think we're just learning about that these kids have been able to do this their whole life, even as a child, I remember he would laugh. I'd be give him his bottle, and he'd look up at the ceiling and just start laughing hysterically, like he saw something up there. And I look, and I didn't see anything. And finally I asked. He was playing peekaboo with his little Elmo and laughing. And I go, who?

00:48:50.139 --> 00:49:06.719
Who's up there? What are you laughing at? And he said, Darren. Like, Darren, like, with a w2 years old. He hardly had any words anymore, because he lost most of them. He'd say like, Momo, Baba, dada, like, he'd repeat syllables. So

00:49:06.719 --> 00:49:11.340
what? Yeah, I just You said Darren. He had never met Darren. Oh, yeah, wow.

00:49:11.400 --> 00:49:21.440
When he was a little kid, he showed that he was connecting with him somehow, right, right? And I didn't know how much that connection involved until he started spelling.

00:49:22.460 --> 00:49:54.099
That's wild. And it's funny, this is total aside, but we were on the couch with my dog the other day, and she just starts staring off in the space and panting. And I'm like, she does it sometimes. And I've other people have had dogs have probably seen it too. Your dog looks like they're looking at somebody. And I think that again, that that non verbal, we develop telepathy and and I know, I know kids come in with it, you know, they come in seeing angels and guides and stuff like that. And then we kind of, you know, talk them out of it,

00:49:54.400 --> 00:49:59.079
right, exactly, until someone tells them, no, you're seeing things. That's not there. There's nothing there.

00:49:59.619 --> 00:50:04.079
But I. Never did that with him.

00:49:59.619 --> 00:50:40.960
I always encouraged that. One interesting thing happened. We were in what's called the tachyon chamber, and the lady that has it had just put a tapestry on the wall behind where the person's head is, and it was a Archangel Michael, and it was new. And Trevor didn't I didn't think he saw it, but he had gone in the other room when I was saying goodbye to her, and I'm like, Oh, that's a really cool tapestry. And I go, is that Archangel Michael? And she goes, Yeah, I just put that up. It's beautiful. So I get home, and I asked Trevor what he experienced in the tacky and chamber, and he said, I saw my angels, and I assumed he was going to say the dead people that he knows. And he spelled Archangel Michael.

00:50:41.739 --> 00:50:56.260
And I said, really? And he said, Yes, Archangel Michael is protecting me. So, I mean, he didn't hear us talking about the tapestry, because he was in the other room. And I texted her, and I told her what he spelled.

00:50:53.619 --> 00:51:42.099
She's like, Oh my gosh, that's amazing. Yeah. So he also, you know, sees archangels, and he's even talked about extraterrestrials, believe it or not. Oh, really, yeah, he's spelled like, I saw extraterrestrials, and I go, what do they look like? And he said, they look like us, except they're not from from Earth. And then he did spell that Pleiades like that later on, like, where are they from? And they're here to help heal and help heal the earth. So tele, I've heard other people that can do that telepathically, too. It just kind of shocked me that when he said that, but I like the show ancient aliens, and so he's overheard that in the background probably a lot, so he probably has explored that, you know, yeah, itself, yeah.

00:51:42.159 --> 00:52:11.099
Well, you know, there, I'm hearing that there are the younger generations coming in now. They're a lot more connected still to the other side. And people call them star children and different, different terms. And so I think that that for some reason, the level of Earth seems beginning kind of elevated. And a lot of these, these kids around, around his age, Trevor's age, are here.

00:52:06.179 --> 00:52:26.360
They're here to teach us. And, you know, there's and as long as we listen, right, as long as we find a way to listen, so it's, it's great. I'm really excited about the work that you, that you guys are doing together, and the word that you're getting out to help a bottle of this and help a lot of lot of kids, thank you.

00:52:27.500 --> 00:52:34.159
That's what he wants to do. So I feel like the scribe for him, like I'm his voice. Yeah,

00:52:34.159 --> 00:52:36.980
yeah, it's I again, it's a fascinating partnership.

00:52:37.820 --> 00:53:02.460
You know, you, you're, you're, you are, you're, you're his assistant, but you're also, you guys are on this journey together, right? And he's, he's here teaching you. So it's kind of interesting, because, you know, we talked about Jess earlier, and you know, she was teaching this kid Asher's supposedly, but then he ended up teaching her so much more, you know, than she taught him. So it's always a give and take.

00:53:02.820 --> 00:53:08.280
Another teacher that was on that same episode The telepathy tapes with them.

00:53:04.980 --> 00:53:30.079
Her name's Susie Miller, and we worked with her, actually, for a while, she did some, actually, some healing with Doctor William Tiller on families like every day they get this healing. And so for a year, we did that. But then we also worked with her, because she has a book called awesomeism, and it's talking about that she talks to the kids telepathically and collectively.

00:53:25.639 --> 00:53:52.840
And so I played the episode with the teachers, and I asked Trevor, I said, Do you remember talking to any of those people that were on there? And he spelled Yes. Susie Miller, I remember her talking to me telepathically. Wow, wow. And I shared it with her, and she was like, Oh, my God, that's so cool. And it was years ago, many years ago. Wow, awesome, everything. He's like a little elephant, yeah,

00:53:52.900 --> 00:54:03.840
well, Laura, it's, it's been really great getting to know you. And you know you've got several books, or three books that we mentioned, so I want you to mention those again and tell people how they can contact you, sure.

00:54:04.320 --> 00:54:25.280
So everything's on my website. My other son, Damon, made it for me. It's really awesome. So it's a collection of all my books and all the videos and resources and everything for spelling to communicate. So it's again, www. Dot, Laura Hirsch, and it's H, I, R, S, C, H.

00:54:20.039 --> 00:54:54.340
Author.com, so all my books that I've ever written are on there, which is widowed too soon. There was one called foundation of discovery, also about autism, the one I talked about with the mediums and the spirit artists, that's called the other side of autism. And then I worked with a group called the thinking moms revolution. And we were all very outspoken bloggers, writers about what happened to our kids and how we help them get better, and we had a grant program. So there's the books team. TMR is the one I was in, and my nickname was Oracle, funny.

00:54:51.340 --> 00:55:02.400
Someone named me. I didn't name myself, and all the blogs I wrote, wrote for them, are available on my website. And.

00:54:58.119 --> 00:55:11.699
Uh, so yeah, I've been an advocate for our kids for a really long time, and now I'm more of an advocate because I've seen the miracle that happened with my son, that can happen with so many kids like him.

00:55:11.699 --> 00:55:11.880
Well,

00:55:12.480 --> 00:55:20.420
you're doing great work, and I want to thank you for it, and thank Trevor for also for for what Trevor's doing, for for all of us. Okay,

00:55:20.480 --> 00:55:22.519
I will do that.

00:55:20.480 --> 00:55:23.360
Thank you so much. Yeah, this is wonderful.

00:55:23.780 --> 00:55:26.719
It's great, great to meet you. Have a great afternoon. Thanks.

00:55:26.840 --> 00:55:27.559
You too. Bye.

Unlocking Autism's Voice- Laura Hirsch

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