Can Our Ancestors Help Us Heal From Grief? | Tamala Floyd on Internal Family Systems & Generational Trauma
What if your deepest wounds... aren't just yours? In this powerful episode of Grief 2 Growth, host Brian Smith sits down with psychotherapist, author, and IFS lead trainer Tamala Floyd to explore how Internal Family Systems (IFS) and ancestral wisdom can help us heal not only personal trauma—but pain passed down through generations.
🔍 Have you ever caught yourself reacting in a way that felt... automatic? Have you wondered why certain emotional patterns keep repeating, even if you've never lived through the original trauma?
Tamala explains how our inner "parts" develop in response to pain—and how they can be lovingly unburdened, not silenced or destroyed. We dive into how grief triggers these parts, how to identify and heal them, and how the loving presence of our ancestors can guide our healing journey, both backward and forward through time. 🧬
Whether you're grieving a personal loss, feeling overwhelmed by inherited burdens, or simply seeking a deeper understanding of yourself—you won't want to miss this transformative conversation. 🌺
✨ In this episode, you'll discover:
How IFS therapy works and why it’s so effective for trauma
The surprising ways generational trauma lives in our bodies
How to invite ancestral wisdom into your healing journey
Why “self-energy” is the key to inner peace
A new perspective on parts like the “people-pleaser” or “inner critic”
🎧 LISTEN NOW and begin the path to healing your grief—and your lineage. 💫
👇 Leave a comment and let us know: What “part” of you shows up most during grief?
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00:00 🌱 What If Grief Is Here to Help You Grow?
01:10 🎤 Meet Tamala Floyd: Therapist, Author, and IFS Expert
02:36 ☀️ From Law to Psychology: Tamala’s Calling
04:00 🧠 What Is Internal Family Systems (IFS)?
05:10 💔 People-Pleasers, Critics & Burdened Parts
06:37 🧘♀️ Healing the Parts, Not Eliminating Them
08:14 🔐 How Trauma Burdens Our Parts
10:26 🧭 Self vs. Parts: Finding Your True Inner Self
12:08 🔍 Discovering the Parts Running the Show
14:46 🪞 Why We See Others' Trauma Before Our Own
16:08 🌳 Understanding Generational Trauma
18:35 🧬 Healing Ancestral Wounds & Genetic Memory
21:19 🧊 Emotional Suppression Passed Through Lineages
24:33 😤 Rage, Anxiety & Overreactions: What’s Beneath?
26:24 🩹 How IFS Helps Heal Deep Childhood Wounds
28:11 🧠 Non-Pathologizing: You’re Not Broken
30:35 🍷 Coping Strategies as Protector Parts
32:54 📖 Parts in Scripture: Paul’s Inner Conflict
35:30 ⚖️ How IFS Supports Grieving Parts
37:56 🕊️ Losing a Child, a Brother, a Grandmother
40:32 🗓️ Trigger Dates & Giving Yourself Permission
42:28 📘 Tamala’s Book: A Practical IFS Healing Guide
44:47 🏋️♀️ Homework Matters: Healing Happens Between Sessions
47:16 🌺 Healing Together: Retreats for Women of Color
49:56 👭 Power of Community in Grief Healing
51:29 🔚 Final Thoughts & Where to Find Tamala
