In this insightful episode of *Grief to Growth*, host Brian Smith speaks with Natasha P. Trujillo, therapist, counseling and sports psychologist, and author of the transformative book *And She Was Never the Same Again*. With over a decade of experience helping individuals and families navigate grief and trauma, Natasha provides a deep understanding of grief and trauma, exploring how these life challenges shape us over time.
π **Key Topics:**
- Understanding grief and trauma and why grief manifests differently for everyone.
- The myth of the five stages of grief and what grief truly looks like.
- The emotional and psychological impact of trauma, and how to build resilience.
- Practical strategies for supporting aging loved ones through their own grief journeys.
- Natashaβs personal story of navigating grief and trauma during the COVID-19 pandemic.
Natashaβs unique blend of professional expertise and personal experience makes this episode a compassionate guide for anyone seeking a better understanding of grief and trauma. Whether you're grieving yourself or supporting someone you love, this conversation is full of wisdom and comfort.
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00:00 π± Introduction β Brian sets the tone with a powerful reflection on grief as a catalyst for growth.
01:25 π Welcome to Natasha P. Trujillo β Introduction to Natasha, her book, and her expertise in grief and trauma.
02:45 π Inspiration Behind the Book β Natasha shares her personal and professional experiences that led her to write And She Was Never the Same Again.
04:00 π€ Why Study Grief? β Natasha explains why she was drawn to grief and loss even before her personal tragedies.
06:33 π Grief Beyond Death β Exploring grief from non-death losses like identity changes, career transitions, and more.
08:19 π¬ Debunking the Five Stages of Grief β Brian and Natasha discuss why the five stages of grief are a myth and how grief is truly experienced.
10:14 π The Importance of Language in Grief β How language shapes our understanding of grief, and the harm in phrases like βat leastβ and βstill.β
12:52 π Embracing the "Both-And" in Grief β The complexity of feeling multiple, often conflicting emotions during grief.
15:21 πΏ Gains from Loss β Natasha highlights the unexpected gains and personal growth that can come from loss over time.
18:38 π The Ever-Changing Nature of Grief β How grief evolves and changes shape, often revisiting us in waves.
21:52 πΆ The Power of Art in Grief β Natasha and Brian discuss how music, writing, and other forms of art help us process grief.
24:17 βοΈ Navigating Emotional Conflict β Understanding how conflicting emotions like relief and sadness coexist in grief.
28:22 π³ Life Lessons from Grief β Grief as a tool for understanding resilience, strength, and the complex nature of human experience.
32:16 π§ Prolonged Grief Disorder β Natasha weighs in on the DSMβs categorization of grief as a disorder and what that means for the grieving process.
37:09 πββοΈ Grief and Performance Anxiety β Comparing the relationship between anxiety in high performance and the natural anxiety in grief.
45:12 π΅ Supporting Aging Loved Ones β Effective strategies for supporting loved ones through the aging process and end-of-life grief.
50:22 π Preparing for Cyclical Grief β How to navigate anniversaries and recurring grief with self-compassion.
58:43 π‘ Final Thoughts on Grief and Healing β Natasha shares tools for healing while honoring the ongoing nature of grief.