Before we ever started recording, Richard Ashworth asked for my birth information. When he told me that something profound happened when I was seven years old—something that shaped how I see the world—I felt it in my body.
It was a moment of loss.
A moment of awakening.
And he was right.
In this deeply moving episode of Grief 2 Growth, I’m joined by Richard Ashworth, a leading authority on Classical Feng Shui and the Chinese metaphysical system known as Bazi (the Four Pillars of Destiny). Together, we explore how the exact moment of your birth creates an energetic blueprint—one that can reveal emotional wounds, hidden decisions, and the moments that quietly define a life.
This conversation blends ancient wisdom with modern grief healing, and gently asks questions many of us carry but rarely speak aloud:
💭 Is grief part of destiny—or choice?
💭 Can childhood loss shape our entire worldview?
💭 Is it possible to revisit those moments and heal them?
💭 What if heartbreak wasn’t meant to break us… but to grow us?
We talk about:
✨ The “Big Fate” moments that occur in childhood
✨ How grief embeds itself in the body and psyche
✨ Why unprocessed loss shapes adult decisions
✨ Fate vs free will—and where healing lives between them
✨ How curiosity can soften even the deepest grief
Richard also shares how Bazi has helped thousands of people reinterpret their pain, mend broken hearts, and reconnect with who they were before life hardened them.
If you’ve experienced loss, if you’ve ever wondered why that moment changed everything, or if you’re searching for meaning after grief, this conversation was made for you.
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00:00 🌱 Grief as a Beginning, Not an Ending
A powerful opening meditation on grief, growth, and the idea that what feels like burial may actually be planting.
02:38 🧭 What Are Feng Shui & Bazi?
Richard explains Bazi—the “feng shui of time”—and how your birth moment forms an energetic blueprint.
06:07 🕰️ The Four Pillars of Destiny
How ancient Chinese wisdom uses cycles of time to understand personality, challenges, and potential futures.
10:12 🔁 Ancient Wisdom, Modern Healing
Why Chinese, Indian, and Western systems echo the same truths—and why they’re resurfacing now.
12:41 💔 The ‘Big Fate’ & Childhood Decisions
How early moments—often traumatic—create lifelong patterns, and why they matter.
15:11 🐉 Reading Brian’s Bazi Chart
Richard interprets Brian’s chart, revealing sensitivity, empathy, and emotional inheritance.
21:38 🌧️ The Father Wound & Emotional Inheritance
A candid discussion on emotional absence, sensitivity, and unspoken grief.
23:39 ⚖️ Fate vs Free Will
Is life predetermined, or do we always have a choice?
30:31 🌊 Loss as a Turning Point
Brian and Richard share how personal loss reshaped their lives and purpose.
32:27 🕯️ Age Seven: The Moment That Changed Everything
A stunning realization about a childhood loss—and how it shaped a worldview.
36:01 🔄 Revisiting the Past to Heal the Present
How returning to earlier decisions can release lifelong patterns.
40:50 🧠 Science, Consciousness & the Observer Effect
Why modern physics is rediscovering ancient truths.
46:25 🌿 What People Are Really Seeking
Behind every question is a search for meaning, peace, and belonging.
52:21 📘 Richard’s Book: I Talk to the Animals
How to work with your own Bazi chart—and what it can reveal.
59:34 🌱 Living with Curiosity, Not Fear
Why presence, not certainty, may be the key to peace.
